1. Table of Contents
  2. About
  3. Solar Dispatch 5
  4. Schedule
  5. Sex Sex Sex
  6. Get Free
  7. Insensitive Dickheads
  8. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Ronald Goldman, PhD on the Hidden Trauma of Circumcision
  9. A Whiff of Wildness
  10. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Nadine Artemis on Becoming Radiant and Sexy from the Inside Out
  11. Do You Hug?
  12. Eye Shielding Electronic Blue Light
  13. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Sheri Winston on the Anatomy of Arousal
  14. Neoaboriginal Revolution
  15. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Arthur Haines on the Ancestral Prenatal Program
  16. Do You Play the Mono-Game?
  17. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Christopher Ryan, PhD on Freeing Ourselves from Shame
  18. Wild Woman Speaks
  19. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Katie Singer on Fertility Awareness
  20. Husbandry
  21. ReWild Your Diet
  22. Wiki Links Trail
  23. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Kim Anami on Consciously Confronting Sexual Taboos
  24. What Happened to GropeCunt Lane?
  25. ReWild Yourself! Podcast: All Those Naughty Words
  26. Twenty Sex (just the) Tips
  27. Your Neo-Aboriginal Challenge
  28. ReWilding Resources
  29. Would You Like to Contribute to the Next Dispatch?
Daniel Vitalis

Awakening Sexual Intelligence

ReWild Yourself! — Dispatch 5

Awakening Sexual Intelligence
ReWild Yourself! — Dispatch 5
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About

Welcome to Dispatch 5 of ReWild Yourself! This online magazine is designed to function as more than a source of information, entertainment, and education, it is a kind of natural solar calendar, and is released in accordance with the eight significant Earth/Sun events of the solar cycle. These are the Vernal Equinox, Beltane, Summer Solstice, Lammas, Autumn Equinox, Samhain, Winter Solstice, and Imbolc. This natural sine-wave rhythm of solar time was once the calendar that we humans lived our lives by, however today we are living on the Gregorian calendar, which is in reality nothing more than an artifice, having no real correlate to the events of the natural world. Conversely, the natural solar calendar is based on real, observable solar/planetary events, and is therefore a significant part of ReWilding Ourselves!

This Dispatch of ReWild Yourself! focuses on sex and sexuality in the context of the pursuit of a more natural lifestyle. Sex is, of course, one of the most taboo-yet-over-discussed topics in our lives, and culturally we at once immerse ourselves in its waters, and yet at the same time avoid ever really swimming into its depths. We are sexually stimulated at every turn by sexual imagery and yet are constantly socially policed by others if we express too much for their comfort. We are expected to be both sexual masters and memorable lovers, and yet at the same time expected not to practice too much, lest we look lecherous, lustful, licentious, libidinous, lubricious, lascivious, or any other "L" words that allude to the "excesses of pleasure". 

Sex is hidden from us as children by those who could best educate us (you know, the ones that made us with sex), yet is pushed upon us by media from the moment we first have remote control autonomy. We are confused about when to start, and then shamed by adults around us when we become sexually active at the same age that they did. If we follow the hypocritical and absurdly unrealistic abstinence program that so many parents suggest, we are then shamed by our peers for not becoming sexually active at the time when the rest of them do. 

The messages are very confusing. We are told that sex is the ultimate pursuit of adulthood and at the same time that it is dangerous to the point of lethality. We are sluts if we 'do it' and prudes if we don’t. Sex dominates the routines of comedians, as we nervously laugh out our pent up sexual tensions, and it is critical to nearly every fictional film whether romance or action, comedy or drama. No story seems complete without sex. 

Sex, it seems, is amongst the most important activities we will experience in our lives, yet is also one of the most hidden and obfuscated. It is joked about in most company, but rarely talked about seriously. It is supposed to take place in private, yet we can all voyeur the act by countless beautiful, shaved, and oiled sex-workers at any time of day by simply logging on. Because the real act is so hidden, these pornographic displays become our cognitive references, dominating in our consciousness the very infrequent sex we witness outside our own. Life imitates art and the sterile and emotionless sexuality we witness in pornography creeps into our own lives and the lives of our very confused children.

The neotonous standards of beauty that dominate our culture and the world of sexual film and photography, advertising and fantasy become the model by which we judge ourselves and our partners, and we struggle to keep up with this rigorous measure, if at all. We fake sexual confidence to cover for insecurities which arise from all these mixed messages, as we — being social apes — attempt to conform to the desires and norms of our tribes. 

What if we step back and look at sex from a fresh, more realistic perspective. What if we ask not 'what should we do', or 'what are we supposed to do', or 'how could we do it better', but rather ask 'what is sex for' and how does it look in the context of natural H. sapiens as a species? In other words, what do we naturally do? Perhaps understanding the role of sex for social apes, and in particular ourselves, we can approach sex from a healthier place, with a more relaxed appreciation and less cognitive dissonance. 

So please join me as we explore the topic in a way that honors our zoology, and looks at the animal physiology and psychology that drives our impulses and fantasies. 

Sex, you’ll see, is probably the greatest drive we have once our basic life support needs are met, and it's true whether we live naked in the rain forest of New Guinea or a penthouse suite in Dubai. 

We are a very sexual ape.


All writing in ReWild Yourself! is by Daniel Vitalis unless otherwise noted.

Daniel Vitalis is a Leading Health, Nutrition, and Personal Development Strategist.  Encouraging us to “ReWild Ourselves”, Daniel teaches that Invincible Health is produced by a life aligned with our biological design. His entertaining, motivational and magnetic delivery style has made him an in-demand public speaker in North America and abroad. He is the creator of FindASpring.com, a resource helping people find fresh, clean, wild water wherever they live, and the founder of SurThrival.com, a brand pioneering a lifestyle of vigorously healthy living. Daniel was recently featured in the widely acclaimed film “Hungry For Change”. He can be found at DanielVitalis.com, as well as on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube and Pinterest.

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Solar Dispatch 5

The Equinox is more than an obscure, ancient pagan holiday, it is an observable celestial event, a moment in the annual cycle when the sun crosses the celestial equator, and the day and night are of equal length. It is a balanced moment, wherein darkness and light establish their equilibrium. 

This is now, of course, the Autumnal Equinox, a prelude to the descent into winter. It will be balanced, in turn, — six months from now — by the vernal equinox, which will usher in the spring. The summer brings with it long days, and is dominated by light and heat. The winter, by contrast, is ruled by long, dark nights and colder, ice-inducing temperatures. It is the equinoxes that stand betwixt them, a moment — twice per year — when the day and night stand side by side as equals. The rest of the year tells the tale of one dominating as the other submits, in the perpetual dance of perfectly balanced opposites. It is an almost sexual expression of a dynamic polarity.

The Autumnal equinox is my personal favorite time of the year. It is the day I was born, and so possesses a special charm for me. Here, where I live, it is the time when the last of the fruits are ripening, and so many plant species begin dying back, retreating, until spring, into their root systems or into their seeds. Here in the north, the visible spectrum is revealed, as the leaves of trees cease their photosynthetic careers and prepare to — as is the season’s namesake — fall to the ground. The canopy of the forests turns brilliant shades of sunburst yellows, explosions of fiery reds, and oranges that range from burnt pumpkin to neon blaze. The mushroom fruit-bodies burst up from the ground and out from the trunks of trees, like mycelial periscopes peering out from their filamentous depths. The sky is azure and there is a crisp, refreshing scent on the breeze. The evenings have grown cool, and the sun is noticeably lower in the sky than it was on those endless, humid days of summer.

Autumn begins now, and we acknowledge the end of one season and the ushering in of another. These are the beautiful — arguably perfect — last days of the season of sun.

Schedule

First Dispatch: Spring Equinox - The Intrinsic Taboo

March 20 - 2014

Second Dispatch: Beltane - Let Food Be Thy Medicine

May 5 - 2014

Third Dispatch: Summer Solstice - Primal Movement

June 21 - 2014

Fourth Dispatch: Lammas - The Operant Condition

August 7 - 2014

Fifth Dispatch: Autumnal Equinox - Awakening Sexual Intelligence

September 22 - 2014

Sixth Dispatch: Samhain 

November 7 - 2014

Seventh Dispatch: Winter Solstice 

December 21 - 2014

Eighth Dispatch: Imbolc 

February 3  - 2015

Sex Sex Sex

Sex has become a rather confusing activity in our modern, domesticated lives. I like to say “All this sex is SO complex.” While in our past, sex was at once a means of procreation and concurrently an extremely pleasurable kind of “social glue” that bound together individuals and communities, it is today, when compared against the sex of our ancestors, primarily the latter for which we copulate.

While we still have sex to form our babies, and thankfully that is still the most common way that human beings are made (for how long one must ask), we are having sex on average 1000 times for every child we create. While sex is the way nearly all of us were made, clearly this is not the only reason we do it.

Perhaps now, more than ever, we are having sex for reasons other than making more copies of ourselves, and while the urge to pass on our genetic material is most certainly a factor, it is infrequently the conscious motivation. We have sex for the sheer pleasure of it, for mere recreation, to create intimacy in our partnerships, to ease tensions in our social groups, and to satisfy our deep biological yearnings. We have sex for fun, sex for release, and even sex for money. We have sex for power or to give our power over to another, we have sex to climb the social ladder, or to get a break from climbing the social ladder. We do it when we are fertile and we do it when we are not, we do it when we are healthy, and when we aren’t well. We have sex a lot and we think about it even more. We worry that we are aren’t having enough, and then we worry that we are doing it to much. We both celebrate sex and then denigrate it, elevate it to a high and lofty position, and then smother it again in taboo. We consume it in media, from softcore cleavage shots in a television advertisement, to the hardcore group sex of internet porn. We take pride in our exploits and at the same time feel shame. I think it is safe to say that we, as a culture and as a species, are obsessed with sex.

Whether intentional or not (and you don’t need me to tell you) sex results, so often, in conception and eventually, in childbirth. Many of us today have chosen not to have children, or only to have children when we feel that we are ready to. Our reasons for choosing to have a child or not range from love to concerns over socio-economics. This stands in dramatic contrast to the way of our ancestors, for whom another child was so often something to celebrate. In nature, the bringing forth of babies was a primary desire of humans. Today, much less so.

Nature, in her multidimensional wisdom, has ensured the continued viability of baby-making by programming into us a sexual “altered state of consciousness”, reducing our capacity the rational decision making of our normal waking state, and enhancing our desire for — and sensitivity to — higher states of pleasure. It is this quest for the euphoric sexual high that ensures the continuation of our species. So while we don’t always set out to make another human, our desire for the act that causes that very thing ensures that more babies will be made.

Some of you will have multiple babies in your sexual career, and others will have but one. Some of us will nary have any at all, but nearly all of us will have sex. And, if I know you at all, you will probably have lots of it! I imagine you have already begun.

So... I ask you, the reader, to please forgive me the unnatural and cumbersome need to separate sex from procreation. What should be one discussion has, due to the status of our lives on the human factory farm, become two. Our desire to procreate less does nothing to reduce our desire for the act that leads to it. This is not some tired religious or moral indictment of sex without the desire for children, far from it. Rather is an observation which I feel would be irresponsible to overlook. 

Consequently, while I have a tremendous preference for holistic thinking, I have chosen to allow the artificial separation between sex and the bringing forth of children to stand, in order that we may keep this Dispatch relevant to all who read, listen, and watch the material contained within. Thank you for understanding!

One more thing… as you move forward through the following presentations, I ask you to consider the following question; what is your personal capacity for pleasure?

Get Free

We have all been there, in a moment of intimate vulnerability. We want to ask, we almost choke. Feigning confidence, we stammer, and it falls out of our mouths. 

“So… uh… how many people have you slept with?”

This is, so often, a game of “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine”, where everyone gets to be a loser. The answer to our best kept secret is one we often wrestle with ourselves, concealing what for many is a nagging sense of shame. We may affect false pride, or be openly remiss, and in my experience it’s been a bit of both. 

Most people I know (and when I say that I include myself, who is but one more person I have had sex with) feel that either they haven’t been with enough people — and so are embarrassed about a lack of experience — or that they have been with too many people — feeling ashamed for being too sexual. Stranger still, it is often both at once.

How about this one: 

“What age were you when you first had sex?”

This question is interesting too, as many of us feel that we started too young, and that we might have waited longer. I have had the opportunity to observe some good friends parent pubescent teens, and watched as they struggled with their progeny becoming, for the first time, sexually active. There seems to be a very common feeling that — despite the fact that it is often around the same age that they themselves began having sex — their kids are “too young”, and “should wait longer”. This is likely how their parents felt too, and once passed along, likely how these neophytes will feel when they have had children of their own.

I have observed a kind of lose/lose situation here, in that we feel guilty if we started “too soon”, and we are shamed or ashamed if we waited “too long”. We feel embarrassed if we have had “too few” partners, and we are ashamed if we have had “too many”. Like Goldilocks we flitter about looking for some undefinable number that is “just right”. And how would we know if we found that perfect sweet spot? Is there an age that is 'appropriate'? If so, what might that be? Is there a number of partners that is the ideal? If so, who sets these standards?

This kind of sexual confusion is rampant in our domesticated world, as we attempt to control one of our strongest and most urgent instinctive yearnings. It is like trying to get up on a wild horse, who despite your best attempt keeps bucking you off and to the ground. Our sexuality is very difficult to reign, it is a horse that cannot be broken. Many great institutional cults have attempted it, using everything from threats of eternal burning hellfire to the painful surgical removal of portions of the sexual anatomy. All attempts — when viewed from the population perspective — have failed time and again, save for the psychological implantation of shame, with which we seem so easily saddled. 

I urge you to examine yourself, and how you police your own sexuality. Where you do feel shame about your sexuality that is self-inflicted? Do you harbor sexual secrets with which you justify internal reprimands and auto-inflicted abuse? What is the content of your inner dialogue?

Where do you allow others to police you sexually? Perhaps parents, friends, or lovers have — or still are — shaming you for the pleasures you have sought or would like to seek? 

Never forget, you are an animal, a mammal. You were not born immaculate, a cooing winged cherub draped in white. You were born from blood, covered with hair, and — like all mammals — craving milk from the breast. ReWild your sexuality! Get free!

Where are you pleasure-policing others, shaming them for their own sexual experiences or desires? Do you guilt others for having had sex at an age you have determined “too young”? Do you sling shame for the number of partners your mother/father, friends, or lovers have had? Who set the standard you so strictly enforce? From whence has your authority come?

Civilization has metered out rations of shame to us all, hobbling us like Achilles with his severed heel. We, whilst encumbered by such a burdensome load can never experience the fullness of who we are, and so are doomed — as long as we shoulder such a burden — to live unrealized lives, bedeviled and unfulfilled. 

It’s time to get free.

Put down your burden of shame, and become aware of how others are attempting to project their own onto you. Learn to identify the “pleasure police” — an inner archetype we have all given audience to — and be mindful of when you are playing this role for another. Hear and listen to your inner dialogue, notice when you abuse yourself with accusations of “too much” and “not enough”. Beware and be aware of this inner critic. His/her standards are likely not your own, but rather those of “the domesticator”. Reframe the conversation taking place between your ears.

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Sexuality cannot be suppressed indefinitely, and how you express your own — with yourself or with consenting, sovereign individuals — is up to you alone. The call to chasten ourselves is not the voice of wild nature. She urges you, like your cousin the Bonobo, to seek the pleasures that perpetuate your species. Rather, it is the voice of the domesticator, who seeks to break and bridle you like it does the horse, to collar you like it does the dog, to pen you in like it does the cow.

Get Free

At the core of your sexuality lies a power with the potential to unlock your greatest opportunities for ecstasy. Not simply mere pleasure alone, but rather ecstatic, mystical union. We are — living here on Earth — individuals. Read it again: in-divide-you-all. When we are joined together, consenting and conscious, present and purposeful, all duality drops away, and our restless, polarized spirits are made whole, if even only for a moment. We go from alone to all-one. 

Shame and guilt are the kryptonite that saps us of our superpower. They are roadblocks to our development and keep us in a state of emotional weakness and perceived isolation. They are the collar to which the domesticator attaches his leash. That you would desire to couple and copulate, in a world made of opposites that attract, is so basic, healthy, normal, and in accordance with your design, that any antithetical expectation is absurdity. 

Get free. ReWild your sexuality!

Insensitive Dickheads

Insensitive Dickhead. Just take a moment to observe the image that emerges in your mind when you hear that phrase. For me it is the imbalanced male who cannot connect with how he feels, who lacks empathy, who hasn’t developed his emotional intelligence. I envision a Budweiser in a beer cozy in the hands of an obtuse and shirtless man with his prolapsed belly painted in the colors of his favorite football team. There are stadium hotdogs on his breath, ketchup on his chin, and glistening bits of relish set like jewels in the corners of his mouth. 

Something like that anyway...

While each of us has some stereotype associated with the term, what most of us likely do not envision is the actual glans (head) of a penis (dick) that has become calloused (insensitive), by way of the constant rub against the clothing, deadening the sensation of what should be the most sensual and sensitive tissue of the male sexual anatomy. For the vast majority of modern males in the United States, genitally-speaking, this is the current state of affairs. It shouldn't be, as this soft bundle of erogenous nerve endings and spongy erectile tissue comes standard with its own protective cover, that much maligned and oft discarded foreskin.

Circumcision — a completely uneccassary surgical procedure performed on newborn baby boys who are unable to consent — removes the protective prepuce that covers the glans of the penis, otherwise shielding its delicate, enervated flesh from the rigors of the outside world. Without it, especially in a culture where pants are worn daily, it is rubbed, chafed, and abraded into a state of low sensitivity, essentially reducing the average males greatest potential for pleasurable physical sensation to a meager fraction of its innate potential.

Ever heard the saying that a guy often thinks with the wrong head? As below so above. Insensitive dickheads make for 'insenstive dickheads'.

Consider for a moment that the male reproductive system is born out of the embryonic, undifferentiated, androgenous human reproductive blueprint, and is essentially a 1:1 reciprocation of the human female reproductive system. At some point between the 8th and 12th week of gestation the human male fetus receives an infusion of testosterone which begins the radical and astounding transfiguration of his undifferentiated sexual anatomy into the externally oriented male genitalia.

The penis, both glans and shaft — testicals hanging in their scrotum, with its seam up the middle — is essentially an unfolded vulva. The gonads, which would have finally settled themselves as ovaries in a female fetus, have now dropped down and out, metamorphosing into testicles. The would-be labia majora has zipped up closed behind them, remaking themselves into the scrotum (hence the seam), and so on, until what we think of as distinctly sexually-male emerges. Most pivotal to our discussion however is the transmography of what might have been the glans, body, and crura of the clitoris into the head and shaft of the penis. Remembering, of course, that the prepuce of the clitoris — or what we commonly refer to as the “hood” — is transformed into that wickedly taboo cowl — pariah of the penis — the foreskin. We have come to believe that the forsekin is the subterfuge of the penis' ill-intent, disguising it like the ski-mask of a bank robber in the midst of his crime spree. Better to remove it — we are led to believe — than to let such wanton depravity loose in our world. The turtle's neck is the cause of the malady we are told, and amputation is the only cure.

I assume that most of my readers are at once sexually active and — if raised in the last couple of decades — well acquainted with the immense sensitivity and reliable orgasmic potential of the clitoris. Much has been written on the subject as the western world rediscovers that 1. Women are actually capable of sexual pleasure. 2. That women, like men are equipped for — arguably better equipped for — orgasm; and that  3. The glans of the clitoris can be stimulated (or over-stimulated, be careful) to produce just such an orgasm. The clitoris, a truly remarkable organ with only one observable function — feeling pleasurable sensations — contains an estimated 8,000 sensory nerve endings, making it an immensely erogenous organ. So too, when we turn our attention to its male counterpart, do we find something similar, with the male glans containing some 3,500 sensory nerve endings (it's no clitoris, but that's pretty good for a guy). Just as the clitoris is the center of pleasurable sensations for a woman, so too is the head of the penis the pleasure center of the male body.

The 'male clitoris', the penis's glans, is protected by its own hood (or prepuce) that we commonly refer to as the foreskin. In the late 1970’s, when I was born, some 65% of boys in the United States had their foreskin removed in the first few days of life, a procedure performed because… well, because… well... just because. While this surgery has roots in some of the world's monotheistic religions, namely Judaism, this is not the only reason it is performed in the US, which is largely protestant.

Yes, protestant actually means “one who protests”... thats another story entirely...

Pause and posit, per what is this amputation of part of the penis performed? Most when confronted with the query parrot some poorly formed proposition about hygiene and cleaning, as if this could possibly warrant a traumatic surgery to a less than week old infant. Is it really possible that nature, with her rigorous selection method, has made just this one mistake, which has gone unnoticed for the last several million years of hominid evolution? No, the foreskin is no less hygienic for the penis than the eyelids are for the eyeballs.

This male genital mutilation, which is still performed on a staggering 58% of boys in the United States, has its emasculating roots in the anti-masturbation movement of the 18th and 19th century. Masturbation — whose etymology is thought to translate; "to defile with one’s own hand” — was thought the cause of many diverse diseases, from blindness to acne, epilepsy to syphilis, and so was a scourge that society sought to end by whatever means necessary. A few of today's most iconic processed food products were originally marketed with a promise of inhibiting the act of solo-sex. The list includes both Graham Crackers and granola, as well as, America’s celebrated breakfast of anti-champions, Corn Flakes, thought by Dr Kellogg to help quell the animal appetites and reduce the drive for sex. 

Far more draconian was circumcision, and the rationale went something like this: removing the foreskin will prevent a boy from being able to create pleasure by rolling his foreskin back and forth over his sensitive glans, and without its protection the very sensitive and moist head of the penis will become chaffed, dry, and calloused, leading to a reduced sensitivity. Circumcision literally leads to insensitive dickheads. 

In Kelloggs' words (1888):

In younger children, with whom moral considerations will have no particular weight, other devices may be used. Bandaging the parts has been practiced with success. Tying the hands is also successful in some cases; but this will not always succeed, for they will often contrive to continue the habit in other ways, as by working the limbs, or lying upon the abdomen. Covering the organs with a cage has been practiced with entire success.  A remedy which is almost always successful in small boys is circumcision, especially when there is any degree of phimosis.  The operation should be performed without administering an anesthetic, as the brief pain attending the operation will have a salutary effect upon the mind, especially if it be connected with the idea of punishment, as it may well be in some cases. The soreness which continues for several weeks interrupts the practice, and if it had not previously become too firmly fixed, it may be forgotten and not resumed. 

He goes on to describe a procedure by which silver sutures can be used to sew the foreskin shut over the glans to mechanically inhibit erections, and how successfully carbolic acid can be used to burn the clitoris of young girls to allay “abnormal excitement”, assuming of course that the “disease” is not to far advanced.

We are living in a culture that still mutilates boys because of a fear of them enjoying themselves sexually. Once the foreskin is removed, natural, normal, human sex will never be experienced by a man, and for a few reasons. The first is that a part of the male functional sexual anatomy has been excised, reducing both the sensory stimulation that is the birthright of boys, and the mechanical stimulation that a foreskin slipping back and forth over the glans produces. Essentially for the intact man, the foreskin masturbates him as he makes love.

Many of the female readers will be more than aquainted with the sensation of rolling the clitoral hood over the glans. 

Ladies, ever wonder why most guys seem so intent on “pounding” away sexually? It's almost as if they barely have any feeling in their penis. Perhaps this is partially due to Insensitive Dickhead Syndrome.

Another symptom, and one that is far less obvious to the untrained eye (but arguably much more insidious) is the trauma to the limbic system that results from being taken away from one's mother in the first moments of life, strapped down to a table, only to have half of the skin of ones penis (yes, that isn’t an exaggeration, it’s actually half) amputated without any anesthesia. While screaming ceaselessly in pain without any hope for rescue or reprieve, the circumcised boy's first lesson on pain is "suck it up, no one is coming to save you". There is now preliminary evidence linking circumcision and a mental “disorder” known as Alexythmia — which is characterized by a lack of emotion and the experience of being "like a robot”.

In other words giving a baby boy a surgery that results in an insensitive dickhead appears to create a man who becomes an insensitive dickhead.

Why, I ask you, is a medically unnecessary surgical procedure — one whose counterpart is now illegal to perform on girls — being perfomed on a boy right now, even as you read this? There is no longer any debate about the ethics of female genital mutilation, a practice that was once performed routinely in the United States under the monicker of "female circumsicion", and which was banned in 1996. It is now, thankfully, considered a crime against humanity, and most of us can easily see that this painful, scarring, superfluous surgery would be immoral and traumatic in both its execution and its impact on a woman's sex life as an adult. And yet, the anatomically equivalent surgery is performed on our boys still... today...  right now  Somehow we believe that this will be of no consequence. 

This is what one looks like: Warning, Graphic

ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Ronald Goldman, PhD on the Hidden Trauma of Circumcision

In this episode of ReWild Yourself! podcast, I talk with Dr. Ronald Goldman — author of Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma and the leading expert in the field — about the deep, oft-repressed psychological trauma stemming from circumcision. 

Episode Breakdown

  • How Dr. Goldman became involved with circumcision awareness
  • The difference between Jewish perspective and non-religious perspective
  • Mainstream media’s avoidance of balanced circumcision reporting
  • Psychological trauma of circumcision
  • The horrifying process of circumcision
  • Informed consent
  • One thing you can do to raise awareness of this issue
  • What is foreskin, and what does it do?
  • Repressed feelings of circumcised men

Circumcision becomes an exception to ethical and professional principles and society’s values. Tweet it!

Fact: Adult foreskin is about 12 square inches of highly erogenous tissue. Tweet it!


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Meet Ronald

Ronald Goldman, Ph.D., a psychologist, educator, and writer, is the founder and Executive Director of the Circumcision Resource Center in Boston, a nonprofit educational organization. His groundbreaking investigation of the unacknowledged adverse psychological and social aspects of circumcision includes hundreds of contacts with men, parents, Jews, and medical and mental health professionals.

Dr. Goldman is internationally known for his expert work on circumcision and is the author of Circumcision: The Hidden Trauma and Questioning Circumcision: A Jewish Perspective. The first book, with a foreword by renowned anthropologist Ashley Montagu, is endorsed by dozens of professionals in mental health, medicine, and social science. It includes original work on the connections between circumcision and trauma for infants and the men they become. Other writing has appeared in medical journals, newspapers, parenting publications, and Jewish periodicals. 

Dr. Goldman's presentations on circumcision and its effects are offered independently to professionals, universities, expectant parents, men, and the Jewish community. He also provides counseling for those making the circumcision decision and men who have issues connected with their circumcision. Read his full bio here.

You can find Dr. Goldman at Circumcision.org and JewishCircumcision.org.

Ronald Goldman, PhD

Ronald Goldman, PhD

A Whiff of Wildness

In the celebration of candor, and the of flouting taboo...

I just have to be real…

I love smelling a healthy person's armpits. More specifically, I love the smell of the armpits of the opposite sex. When I say 'armpits' — or for the more anatomically inclined; axilla — I mean raw and untreated, which is to say it is the smell of the body’s odor itself, not the smell of antiperspirant, cologne, deodorant, or any other man-made miasma masquerading as intrinsic bouquet…

While I am being so cavalier, I might as well admit that it’s not just something I like, but rather I’d say it’s something I need. It fuels me, kickstarts my physiology. 

It's like Paleo Viagra...

Human beings are of course — like our cousin species the Bonobo and Chimpanzee — a social ape, and we, when found in the wild, live in small foraging groups of around 30 individuals. Foragers live in close proximity to one another, and do not have the surfactant (soap) based bathing rituals characteristic of our society. In most parts of the world — and in particular, the places where our evolutionary history began — they possess and wear much less clothing than do moderns. Additionally antiperspirants and deodorants are nowhere to be found amongst these peoples, and they spend far more time being active than their sedentary domesticated descendants do today.

Based on the above I think it is an obvious assumption and natural conclusion that human beings have evolved in the presence of one anothers’ body odor, and that as a result, it is possible that we have evolved mechanisms by which our own bodies are signaled — and perhaps even our physiologies modulated — by these smells. 

The importance of the human sense of smell has by far been underestimated in the past. Humans and other primates have been regarded as primarily ‘optical animals’ with highly developed powers of vision but a relatively undeveloped sense of smell. In recent years this assumption has undergone major revision. Several studies indicate that humans indeed seem to use olfactory communication and are even able to produce and perceive certain pheromones; recent studies have found that pheromones may play an important role in the behavioral and reproduction biology of humans. – European Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology and Reproductive Biology, Feb 2005

There are tremendous social taboos about body odor, and most of us have stood abashed and accused at some waypoint in our lives. I remember "the talk" that my 6th grade teacher had with us — as we were groomed to enter Junior High school — wherein we were taught about the dreaded scourge of “B.O.”. It was an affliction of vagabonds and sullied and unkempt adults, and soon if we were caught unawares, it would begin to take root in us as well. We were told that the time had come to have a talk of our own with our parents, imploring them to provide us with the antidote of antiperspirant, lest we become antisocial ragamuffins. This message was delivered in a rather cryptic way, as I remember having little understanding of what she was speaking, and feeling rather perplexed about the malodorous melodrama that I must now both guard against in myself and police in my fellow human. At that time, around age 12 for me, I didn’t even have a reference point for the ripe animal odor which we each can emanate. So well concealed was this undercover underarm malefactor, that I had never detected it beneath the chemical clean, chalk-whited pits of the perfumed parents and aroma-adorned adults around me!

Retrospectively the reason why is obvious. So strong are the taboos, so socially enforced are the soaps, shampoos, colognes and perfumes, deodorants, aftershaves, and antiperspirants, so regular are the showers and baths, and the washing of clothes, that it is as if we have all agreed to play an imaginary game together, one in which the human body has no smell, save that which we purchase and apply to ourselves.

I discussed in the Intrinsic Taboo the way in which Civilization must protect itself by creating precepts against expressions of wildness. In short, because wildness is our natural state, and Civilization is less than 10,000 years old (we are at least 200,000 years old as a distinct species), we cannot help but to express our instinctive wildness. It must be trained out of us. In fact, nearly all that Civilization has to offer is misaligned with our biology, and thus, we have an innate tendency to reject it and embrace what our bodies are actually made for, a life in nature. As a result, Civilization — with its desperate will to survive — must suppress and demonize expressions of wildness wherever they are found. It is a mechanism of self preservation. 

We have been conditioned to associate our natural state, or bodies in their actual form, as both embarrassing and inappropriate. Whether it be our nakedness, the sleep in our eyes, the smell of our breath, the menstrual cycle of a woman, the hair that grows upon us, or… sin of all sins… the smell of our armpits, we become repositories of accumulated social shame. We tally our indiscretions against the taboos of our culture, and no matter how willing we are to repress, we are always found wanting. It is a scenario in which the house always wins, as it is impossible to live faultlessly in a way that is fully antithetical to your biological nature. 

I didn’t always like the smell of armpits, in fact, when I smelled my first ripe and unwashed axilla, I was astonished — was this normal? Perhaps this one was an aberration? In time I too began to take on the stink myself, and I soon realized that all the whole world of humans was participating in this reeking redolence. It wasn’t until I undertook the metamorphic transmogrify of whole food nutriment that I began to realize, the odor absconding from underneath my arm was no fear inducing fetid fog but rather a luxurious aroma begging for audience. I became curious, as I often do, and began to ask others — admittedly my research has been limited to H. sapiens females — “can I smell you, would you like to smell me”. I quickly correlated fragrance and food, and realized that the odor of a healthy person is something to be savored, not chemically suppressed. I also began to notice that after making love my body odor became particularly sweet smelling, like maple syrup on spiced oatmeal. I began to detect this same smell on my lovers too, and realized that there was a correlation between sex and smell. It seems obvious to me now, but having been raised (read: trained) to disguise my scent or face social suicide, this initially surprised me more than empowered me. Was I suffering the affliction of some kind of scent fetish?

In time I met many others who corroborated my own anecdotal findings, and slowly the grip of the body odor taboo began to loose and melt away under the brilliant light of personal experience. I was quickly learning that body odor wasn’t disgusting, that in fact, in some cases it was an aphrodisiac. Rather than turning me away, it was turning me on!

Men exposed to the scent of an ovulating woman subsequently displayed higher levels of testosterone than did men exposed to the scent of a nonovulating woman or a control scent. -Psychological Science, 2009

Evidence has also emerged demonstrating that the menstrual cycle of woman may be modulated by the scent of the woman around her.

We found that odourless compounds from the armpits of women in the late follicular phase of their menstrual cycles accelerated the preovulatory surge of luteinizing hormone of recipient women and shortened their menstrual cycles. Axillary (underarm) compounds from the same donors which were collected later in the menstrual cycle (at ovulation) had the opposite effect: they delayed the luteinizing-hormone surge of the recipients and lengthened their menstrual cycles. -Nature, 1998

There is also evidence that the body order of men also induces alterations in the menstrual cycle of human woman. In an article entitled “Male Axillary Extracts Contain Pheromones that Affect Pulsatile Secretion of Luteinizing Hormone and Mood in Women Recipients” the authors reveal “Human underarm secretions, when applied to women recipients, alter the length and timing of the menstrual cycle”, and in the context of our shared past in tribal settings, this makes perfect sense (scents?).

Men also preferred the scent of women at fertile cycle points. -Behavioral Ecology, 2002

Evidence is emerging (as if we needed it) that the smell of our bodies is very much involved with our natural, animal sexuality, and it is for this reason that it attracts the harsh and unforgiving gaze of the evil eye of Intrinsic Taboo. We — that taboo tells us — can use smells to attract a mate, just not our own smells. Smells purchased, smells made in a laboratory, smells constructed by human hands, but never our own smell. To do so is simply disgusting (cue the soap and deodorant commercials).


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ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Nadine Artemis on Becoming Radiant and Sexy from the Inside Out

Nadine Artemis — sense visionary and creator of Living Libations — tells us why we should skip mainstream hygiene products and stick to botanicals and the elements to care for our skin.

Episode Breakdown

  • Poetic Pits - the sensual "odorant" that blends harmoniously with your natural, primal scent
  • The 411 on essential oils
  • Nadine’s first forays into oil blending
  • Toxicity of mainstream beauty products
  • Tips to have the best skin ever
  • Feeding the body with essential oils
  • Sexual communication through our armpits
  • The toxic cocktail in the average supermarket deodorant stick
  • The trifecta that makes up the perfect storm for breast cancer
  • What you can do to naturally lower your risk of breast cancer
  • The sunlight vitamin
  • Iodine’s key roles in the body
  • Toxic ingredients found in mainstream "feminine hygiene" products
  • What a woman can incorporate into her lifestyle to take great care of her lady lotus
  • No tan lines - why this is such an important part of your self care toolkit!

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Meet Nadine

Nadine Artemis is the creator of Living Libations, an exquisite line of serums, elixirs, and essentials oils for those seeking the purest of the pure botanical health and beauty products on the planet. She is the author of Holistic Dental Care: The Complete Guide to Healthy Teeth and Gums, a frequent commentator on health and beauty for media outlets, and her products have received rave reviews in the New York Times, the National Post, and the Hollywood Reporter. Described by Alanis Morissette as “a true-sense visionary,” Nadine has formulated a stunning collection of rare and special botanical compounds. An innovative aromacologist, Nadine develops immune-enhancing formulas and medicinal blends for health and wellness; her potent dental serums are used worldwide and provide the purest oral care available. Her healing creations, along with her concept of “Renegade Beauty,” encourage effortlessness, eschew regimes, and inspire people to rethink conventional notions of beauty and wellness. Nadine’s fresh paradigm for beauty and her natural approach to health presents a revolutionary vision; it allows the life-force of flowers, dewdrops, plants, the sun, and water to be the ingredients of healthy living and lets everything unessential, contrived, and artificial fall away.

You can find Nadine at LivingLibations.com and on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

Nadine Artemis

Nadine Artemis

Do You Hug?

Do you hug?

There is, inevitably, that awkward moment after having met someone new, just before saying goodbye, when final words are exchanged in a tone that says “we are wrapping this up”. Then it comes, the final parting. Is it kinesthetic? Do we hug? Shake hands? Pound knuckles? Keep it sterile with just a wave or a nod?

I have always been fascinated by body-language and the cultural customs and taboos that govern how people touch when they are together. Growing up I knew only what was the custom here in the United States where I live, and didn’t yet know that there were no universals. I assumed — as I had with so many things — that the way that we (my community) did things was the way we (our species) do things. Now, having traveled outside my comfort zone both psychologically and geographically, I know that this is not only a significant error in thinking, it is also a common one.

While traveling in India I saw men walking down the streets holding hands. I had never seen this outside of romantic relationships amongst men, and these were clearly not those, but rather simply displays of brotherly affection. In Thailand I found that touching the head of a child was supremely disrespectful, though here it is not only socially acceptable, it is — to the annoyance of younglings across the continent — common to the point of caricature. In Europe being kissed on both cheeks is common hello or goodbye, yet to do so where I live would certainly seem forward indeed, and might even instigate the recipient's romantic partner to jealous or aggressive emotions.

Even at home, knowing how to navigate this touch-cetrism or tactile-taboo can be at least as challenging as traveling in a foreign land, and cultural differences can be as stark between neighbors as it is between neighboring continents. 

I have found that most people are very similar, and an open heart and an authentic but self-respecting attitude goes a long way nearly everywhere. Sincerity and a genuine interest to learn the ways of another will open most doors, as we are all but one species. Still, at home, it is knowing how to say goodbye to someone new that seems to present the most significant — if not amusing — obstacle. 

We have all had that experience of reaching for a handshake when the other is going in for a hug, or trying to bump knuckles with someone who wanted to shake hands. Once I kissed my friend’s partner on the lips when she was attempting to kiss my cheek. I even gave a little tongue. Oops, mixed signals. While I haven’t found a solution to these dilemmas of departure, I have identified a few of the more common goodbye styles, and acquaintance with them can help us avoid that awkward moment by “typing” someone just before the inevitable moment arises.

I should add this caveat first. I am a hugger. There is something about the hug that I both like to feel in my own body, and that I like to feel in another person's body too. I learn a lot about someone through a hug, and for me, chest to chest and heart to heart is something I am comfortable with. Not with everyone of course, I think that we must keep a healthy sense of personal space around people we don’t trust or anyone we feel “off” about, but when I have determined that someone bears no ill intent, then I will usually hug. 

Many years ago I attended a church group (hard to imagine, I know), where I was surprisingly popular early each Sunday morning, just before the sermon would begin. A veritable procession of women, in ages varying from tween to retired, would line up to hug me. I thought, in retrospect naively, that this was simply a love-filled culture, but later was pulled aside to have the truth of the matter explained. This was a community of sexually suppressed women (and men) and I had not been taught the genital-free “A” hug. For the uninitiated, the “A” hug is an upper body only hug, and the pelvis is drawn back and away from the person you are embracing. Together, both bodies form a shape reminiscent of the capital letter “A”. It’s a very cerebral experience of sharing, and being a more wildly free and sexually animated character, I was told my hugs were awakening a sinful temptation in these women. I was asked to adopt the kinesthetic equivalent of the scarlet letter for the remainder of my time there, which wasn’t long. God, I was told, expects a significant amount of sexual repression. I don't think he is a hugger.

So, let’s begin with the type “A” personality, and work our way through the some of the different breeds of huggers.

The type “A”. 

The type “A” or A-hugger is a traditional, one might say “little house on the prairie" type. Usually a bit WASPy, and often wearing very modest clothing that ranges in its shades of drab, the A-hugger has been systematically dissociated from their sexuality and often from proprioception of their entire pelvis as well. This hug is used to make a very clear statement; “I love you intellectually, but not physically (that would be wrong)”. When performing the A-hug be sure that you have enough space, as this hug requires a larger footprint than most. Simply stand with about 24” between your feet and theirs, then bend forward at the waste and embrace. Usually a pat on the back completes this ritual, in addition to adding emphasis.

The Cold Stiff.

The cold stiff is not the physically affectionate type. They often come from an academic or scientific background, but can be found in many other walks of life, such as insurance sales.  The cold stiff appears to be hugging due to a perceived social expectation, but experientially feels a bit like hugging a mannequin. During the hug it may feel as if you alone are doing the hugging, and that the other has gone cold and lifeless. Be forewarned, this hug will always be awkward. Sometimes offering an alternative is the easiest for everyone, such as knuckle bump or high five. They will usually accept this offer, however, be sure that whatever alternative you choose isn’t too complicated. Anything involving a snap or double tap is usually too confusing for these folks who are often not staying abreast of such trends. There is no need to feel offended by this person's distaste for embrace, they simply reserve human physical contact for specific activities, such as breeding.

The Namaste.

The namaste – which admittedly isn't an embrace at all – is usually found in locations such as yoga studios, vegetarian restaurants, juice bars, or any other location where the smell of nag champa can be found floating about on the breeze. Performing the namaste is easy, though the extended eye contact has been known to make some people feel slightly uncomfortable or even disoriented. The technique can be quickly mastered however, by simply placing the palms together over the heart in a “prayer” position and gazing softly into each others eyes. This gazing may last only a few seconds or as long as a minute or more. If extended be sure to punctuate your stare with little facial gestures of intimate “wow” indicating you are witnessing something unusually profound in one anothers eyes. End with a “thank you brother/sister” — or simply "namaste" — to ensure that you have acknowledged the god or goddess within. This person isn't afraid of human contact, but rather prefers contact with your energy field.

The Bro.

The "bro" is an important cultural ritual in arenas where machismo is highly valued and any display of affection that is free from the threat of violence is seen as weakness. Common amongst athletes, police and military, and throughout frat houses on college campuses, the bro is performed by aggressively swinging your hand into the others in what looks like a mid-flight arm wrestling position. From here the shoulder of the hand that is being used is rolled forward and slammed into the shoulder of the other as both bros pull the other into themselves forcefully. Once this shoulder checking is performed the opposite hand is used to deliver an audible slap to the shoulder blade of the other person. Phrases like “Yea Bro!”, “Fuck yeah!”, or "Get some!" often compliment the movement. This is a great way for two men to hug whilst clearly broadcasting their heterosexuality to any potential onlooker. If emotions run even higher both may grab each other by the sides of the head and smack foreheads, though this is rare and typically reserved for circumstances like scoring a game-winning touchdown. 

The Imbalancer.

The imbalancer is — thankfully — a rather rare creature, though once you have met this person, you will never forget him, and may even find yourself practicing foot work at home to avoid his/her intractable embrace. The imbalancer appears to enjoy the hug more than you do, and there is even a sense that they feel they are doing you a favor by lavishly drawing you into their bosom. The hug starts off like any other, but soon you realize that they have pulled you off your center and that your upright posture has now become dependent on them — lest you were to fall forward. Many techniques for maintaining equilibrium have been identified, but I will share what has worked best  for me in the past. Remember, the following technique is simply a suggestion, and if the imbalancer is unusually large or strong, even this may not be effective. As the hug is being initiated, step in to the space between the two of you, moving your center of gravity closer to theirs and establishing a firm footing. This will keep the other from pulling your upper body out beyond your feet. Immediately bend the knees slightly, and sit weight into your butt, much like the feeling of something heavy, like a paint can, hanging off your rear beltloop. Be careful not to be too overt as the imbalancer will often compensate by stepping back and escalating the amount of force used. It is often difficult to know if this behavior is intentional, or if everyone else (just like you) has not had the heart to tell them just how belittling their embrace can feel. 

The Secret Handshake.

Practitioners of the secret handshake operate from the mistaken belief that all they meet have been initiated into the dextrous acrobatics of their proprietary paw pat. Having gone in for what appears to be a simple handshake or a classical "Bro", a sudden realization dawns, you have come to this handshake with all the gross motor-skill equivalent of a lobster claw turning a door knob, he's brought that of nimble fingers solving a rubik's cube. There is often a moment of 'freeze' as you recognize that there is a ritual unfolding for which you have been caught completely unprepared. Your outstretched hand hangs limply in space as snaps, slaps, and claps encircle it, deploying deft articulations that make your own fingers appear pudgy and bloated. You have been standing there idly as the secret handshake has passed you by. If the other is particularly didactic, you can expect an unintentionally condescending lesson to proceed — often lasting longer than you would prefer — detailing how this person thinks you might best embrace the hand of another. Welcome to the club. Pass it on.

Do You Hug?

There are many ways with which we say goodbye, ways in which we honor one another before parting ways. These cultural and subcultural differences, while amusing when placed into this more light-hearted context, reveal a beautiful truth about us. We use touch to connect and communicate, and feeling the contact of another – the physical warmth of a likeminded ape – provides a comfort that reassures the soul. Touching gives closure to a conversation or experience that mere words cannot provide. If you hug, please keep hugging, and if you don't perhaps it's time to start. 


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ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Sheri Winston on the Anatomy of Arousal

In this episode of ReWild Yourself! Podcast, I talk with Sheri Winston, author of Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure and leading sex educator.

Episode Breakdown

  • Sheri’s books
  • Taboo sexual language
  • Solo sex is our laboratory for pleasure experiments
  • Altered states of consciousness
  • Going into deep trance for mega-orgasmic experiences
  • The ecology of sex
  • Rediscovering the clitoris
  • Taking time with arousal for transcendent sex
  • The yin and yang of sexual energy
  • How to teach your children about sex
  • Sheri’s top sex tips for men and women

The term “masturbation" means to pollute with your hand. Tweet it!

If you want to have better sex, it begins with your relationship with yourself. Tweet it!

The better we are at playing our own instrument, the better we'll be at playing a duet with a partner. Tweet it!

The clitoris is the jewel and the crown, but it’s only one part of the network. Tweet it!


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Meet Sheri

Sheri Winston is an award-winning author, medical professional, and one of the United States’ leading sex teachers. She offers online classes and also teaches at venues ranging from conferences to educational institutions, and from sexuality boutiques to private gatherings, in the U.S. and elsewhere.

Winston’s 2010 book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure, won the 2010 Book of the Year award from AASECT (the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists).

Her Wholistic Sexuality™ curriculum has over 50 classes covering subjects such as orgasmic abundance for men and women, sex and relationship skills, and women’s reproductive health.

Spending twenty years as a midwife, childbirth educator and doula turned out to be the best possible apprenticeship Winston could have for being a sex teacher. The birth process taught her much of what she learned about how to have great sex.

Sheri retired from birthing babies in 1999, although she continued providing gynecology care for another five years. She began development of the The Center for the Intimate Arts and her Wholistic Sexuality™ curriculum during that time. She retired from clinical care in 2005 to dedicate her self full-time to teaching, counseling, running the Center, writing and expanding her offerings. She is passionate about passion and has been doing this work ever since.

You can find Sheri at IntimateArtsCenter.com.

Sheri Winston

Sheri Winston

Neoaboriginal Revolution

Intergenerational Nutrition

By Arthur Haines of Delta Institute

I’m going to begin this brief article with a hypothetical example.  Let’s assume we have a woman who has come to the realization that her diet, which is rich in highly processed foods containing synthetic ingredients and grown in contaminated soils, is causing her health problems.  Allergies, inflammation resulting in arthritis, disruption of hormones, periodontal infections, and fatigue are some of the current issues she is dealing with.  She performs some study and decides to go on a cleansing diet.  For four weeks she consumes nothing but chia seed (for its insoluble fiber to absorb toxins in the GI tract), dandelion root (for its beneficial effects on the liver), and bilberry (promoting diuresis and blood return from extremities).  Only clean spring water accompanies these three plants.  At the end of the month, she has lost weight, removed toxins from her body, greatly decreased the pain she was feeling, and has a tremendous sense of well-being.  This is all good news.

Then comes the mistakes. (1) She assumes that this healing diet (one meant to correct health issues but not necessarily one to provide for ongoing nutritional needs) is the correct diet for her for the rest of her life.  (2) She promotes the diet to everyone she knows because it made her feel great (despite the fact she has only been on said diet for one month). And (3) she chastises everyone who does not accept and practice this diet. Though the diet in this example is fictitious, the three actions she pursued are very real and very common.  Let’s examine what she has actually done.

This person did not understand that diets (all diets) can be broken down into three subtypes:  healing, maintaining, and building.  She was on a healing diet, one designed to produce a specific action (in this case, cleanse), but not one that provided ongoing nutritional support for her body.  A building diet is one that could be used by athletes, expecting mothers, or even cancer survivors to provide nutritional support and also increases certain foods to develop musculature, nourish a fetus, or create a strong immune defense.  She also did not think long-term.  She was excited for her success (and should be) but did not consider ramifications of her diet down the road — most diets that are practiced today are relatively new to our experience.  She focused on her own health.  She focused on herself, now (which is, unfortunately, the norm in our civilization).

I used a woman in my hypothetical example not because I wanted to attack one gender but because I wanted to really push a certain point:  very few people in this country interested in healthy diets ever consider what the diet does to the next generation (again, they think about themselves and how the diet works for them).  We are not accustomed to thinking generationally (as evidenced by the fact we pollute knowing full well we leave the world in a worse place for our children).  Nurturing a growing fetus requires more nutrition than an adult needs on their maintaining diet (i.e., they need to engage in a building diet).  Folate, biotin, choline, and vitamins A, D, and K2 (among other vitamins and minerals) are required in large amounts for a healthy, properly formed baby.  Almost everyone in the United States was malnourished in utero.  It is evidenced by the fact they have crooked, crowded, and/or impacted teeth — their faces are too narrow to fit all of their teeth (note that people eating wild and traditional diets have broader faces than we do, with straight, properly spaced teeth and all teeth emerging, including wisdom teeth).  Almost all Americans show this evidence of nutritional deficiency but no one realizes it because it is so common (there is evidence suggesting also that pelvis form is affected by poor diet, creating potential complications for birthing a child).  Keep in mind that a diet that does not create a large enough skull for our teeth also does not create a large enough cranium for a very important organ protected by the cranium (and, if you are wondering, our brains are slightly smaller than those of our indigenous ancestors).  So how do we consider the next generation in our diet?

From a nutritional standpoint, there is really only one diet (with variations) that has shown it can produce healthy adults AND healthy, well-formed children — an omnivorous diet that consists of wild foods (entirely) or a combination of wild and traditional foods.  Traditional foods are organically raised heirloom plants prepared to maximize nutrition or organically raised animals fed a biologically appropriate diet.  These diets consisted of a mix of raw and cooked foods, always consumed animal fat in some form, and had special diets (i.e., building diets) for expecting parents that usually began pre-conception.  These wild and traditional diets had a nearly even ratio of essential fatty acids (Ω-6 and Ω-3), something that is almost impossible to attain on any other diet (due to the high use of grains, nuts, legumes, and grain-fed animals, which are generally rich in Ω-6 fatty acids).  This essential fatty acid balance has important ramifications for neural development of a fetus.  Today, all diets maximize the use of plants that have been genetically modified (through breeding and sometimes also laboratory methods), resulting in losses in nutrition, muted levels of phytochemistry, and alterations to essential fatty acid profiles.  All of this affects the health of the individual AND the next generation.

Samara, Arthur's daughter, foraging for saqtemin (common blackberry, in Passamaquoddy)

Samara, Arthur's daughter, foraging for saqtemin (common blackberry, in Passamaquoddy)

She’s learned at this point to gather the black ones (mature fruits) and not the red ones.

Anyone who is concerned about the health of the next generation will need to understand that our form has changed as a result of the food we have consumed.  We practice what we are told to be healthy diets, but most of these diets have no track record, no proof they build well-formed children (which translates to healthy, long-lived adults).  In fact, evidence indicates these new diets cannot build well-formed children.  Examine images on the web of any indigenous culture around the world still enjoying their traditional diet (this is a key point) and you will notice broader faces, wider mouths, and wider noses (these traits are also found in the indigenous of Europe).  Our current form is one of nutritional deficiency, one we have arrived at by focusing on the individual and not focusing on the effects of our diet on the next generation.  Many parents have relatively healthy and happy children and assume they have eaten appropriately.  But these are relative comparisons made to other contemporary people, people who are not necessarily the best standard against which to compare health and vitality.  What these parents have not considered is our ancestral form, a form that was lost when we stopped relying on the nutritional wisdom that had been gathered over many millennia of examining what food did to the next generation.  Nowadays, we focus on the dietary effects to the present-day individual.  Our real form, the one that is within all of us to produce (in the next generation), is one that can only be generated through wild and traditional diets.


Meet Arthur

Greetings! My name is Arthur Haines and I’ve been helping people explore human ecology for over 20 years. I’ve done this with the mission of developing deep awareness of and connection to nature, promoting individual health, and fostering self-reliance. Wild food is a passion of mine, and through this, I offer a glimpse of our past and a new picture of our future. Through this knowledge, and many other facets of our shared ancestral lifeways, we can awaken a rewilding of our body, mind, and heart.

I endeavor to share knowledge garnered from this perspective, one that merges the material knowledge of present-day people with the ecological knowledge of ancestral people.

You can find Arthur on Facebook and on his website ArthurHaines.com.

Arthur Haines

Arthur Haines

ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Arthur Haines on the Ancestral Prenatal Program

The NeoAboriginal Lifeway series with Arthur Haines continues!

Episode Breakdown

  • We have set up an inhospitable habitat for the next generation
  • How Arthur shifted his mindset when preparing for a child
  • Arthur's suggestions for preparing to have a baby
  • We are a deformed version of our actual blueprint
  • Foods to keep out of your diet during pregnancy
  • Prenatal vitamins vs procuring vitamins from nutrient dense foods
  • It’s not just what the mother eats (it's what the father eats too)!
  • Super nutrient dense animal foods
  • What Arthur’s daughter eats
  • Eating sea creatures during pregnancy
  • Arthur's recommendations for a prenatal diet program
  • The foraged plant that Arthur’s partner took religiously to prepare for birth
  • What indigenous humans did with their placenta
  • Combining breast milk with solid foods
  • The importance of breastfeeding
  • Spacing pregnancies for optimal health of the next child and the mother

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Do You Play the Mono-Game?

Human sexuality is amongst the most, if not the most, emotionally complex of our social behaviors. Nothing seems to incite such excitement and such passion, such jealousy and such aggression. Nothing seems to motivate us to action quite like the drive for sex, nor are there many things that can wound us as deeply as the experience of sexual rejection. It is at once our greatest blessing, rich as it is with ecstatic, other-worldly pleasure, and yet it is also one of our most significant sources of contention, being the impetus for so many conflicts and, at times, even wars. Nature has planted within us a desire for sex that few of us can (or would even want to) ignore, and yet the cultural baggage associated with sex further complicates what is already one of life's most confounding conundrums; with whom do we have sex?

To sort through this highly charged topic I will employ my usual method, that is, to look to wild, natural peoples as a template for what drives our needs and behavior, and to inform us as to what might be a healthy and sustainable direction for us in the modern world.

If you thought our modern Euro/American sexuality was difficult to interrupt, just have a look at the tribal peoples of the world! As many expressions of the human pair bond — and its associated sexual rules and dogmas — exist as human imagination can conjure. An in depth look reveals something interesting — humans the world over, it seems, have always struggled to make sense of their sexuality.

Four primary relationship structures recur amongst foraging groups, those being promiscuity, monogamy, polygyny (more than one female to a male), and – albeit much more rarely –polyandry (more than one male to a female). The integration of this understanding is of immediate value, since it precludes the lingering contemporary belief that there exists some “right way” for humans to mate. Despite our civilization's emphasis on the strictly monogomous pair-bond, nature tells us that there are at least four equally valid patterns from which we can choose! Of primary interest to this discussion is the monogamy we see amongst foraging peoples, because it can better help us to understand ourselves, and puts us in a position from which we can better view our own sexual paradigm from a nature-based perspective.

In our civilization, monogamy is the typical, culturally accepted, default relationship setting. Though variants do sometimes occur — such as relationship "tirads" — they are nearly always hidden from sight by the opacifying lens of the Intrinsic Taboo. While they may be the subject of an occasional reality TV show, they are not considered socially acceptable in most cases. In fact, such strict emphasis on relationship-variation taboo has led many of us to conclude that we are just “naturally monogamous", as if this were the inborn genetic mating program of our species. The reality is, of course, far more complex, and this dominant belief begins to look cartoonish when compared against the available data.

It is important to note that life-long, sexually exclusive monogamy between two people rarely occurs within foraging groups, just as it rarely occurs amongst those of us living in our modern civilization. Please read that last sentence again. While only the smallest percentage of readers (if any) will have only one sexual partner over the course of their lifetime, somehow this "ideal" is still venerated, despite its obvious mismatch with the reality we see around us. Although most of us will have more than one sexual partner in the course of our lifetime, and despite this being the norm for both foraging peoples and civilized moderns, many of us struggle with guilt and shame, having been taught (or arrived at the conclusion by bumping up against our sexual taboos) that this is an aberration. We continue to lionize the lifelong sexually exclusive pair-bond. It seems to me that what is found in humans in nature should be culturally accepted as healthy, normal, and shameless, since supression of our natural instinct will always be a losing battle when played out over the course of time. While some people will see this as obvious, others will struggle to accept the notion, and feel that this is a perversion of some kind. Nature, however, says otherwise. 

When considering monogamy, it is of immense value to draw a distinction between “social monogamy” and “sexual monogamy”. These are terms biologist use to refer to monogamous pair-bond patterns amongst animals. Many animals are socially monogamous — in other words they appear to be with only one mate publicly, however will have (with significant variations in frequency) extra-pair bonded sex when their primary mate is not present and opportunities permit. This is in contrast to exclusive sexual monogamy (which is much more rare in the animal kingdom), where the two members of the pair bond mate only and exclusively with one another. In fact, genetic testing of the offspring of pair-bonded individuals has revealed that many species of animals once thought to be sexually monogamous are, in reality, anything but. 

A study of indigenous cultures reveals that exclusive sexual monogamy amongst wild humans is also incredibly rare, and — as so many of us know (often from direct experience and/or first hand reports) is just as rare in modern civilized humans. What is far more common is social monogamy with extra-pair-bonded sexual relationships. In some indigenous cultures these are hidden from the other mate, in others they are simply tolerated by the partner, and in still others this is built into the fabric of the culture’s sexual paradigm. It is worth noting that these same patterns occur in our culture as well, in that some people have “affairs” and hide them from their partner, others have them and they are tolerated by the partner, and still others have them with mutual acceptance between the primary partners of the pair bond. 

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One challenge is that while this extra pair-bonded sex is happening all around us, few of us are talking about it, and most of us are in such deep states of denial that we scarcely know how to begin the conversation. It is also common for partners in a monogamous pair-bond to desire extra-pairbonded sex, but be afraid or ashamed to discuss this with their mate. And, while extra pair-bonded sex is common amongst humans everywhere, it is still — in our culture — most often viewed as a corruption and therefore as an indicator of immorality or defect in the character of the “offending” partner. This of course leads to the disruption of many otherwise ideal pair bonds, bonds that might have remained intact had the partners been in possession of a broader understanding of natural human sexuality, and not been urged forward by the dominant cultural prescription for divorce or breakup in the event of extra pair-bonded sex.

It seems we are expected to play a "mono-game", but that many people "cheat" at this very same. Cheating, in most of its other contexts, is used to help one "win" or "get ahead" in a game. What is the goal that one is attempting to reach when they "cheat" on their partner? Does our culture see relationship as a game?

This inquiry into naturally occurring peoples reveals important information, since so many people feel — and this belief has been strongly imprinted by our cultural taboos — that extra pair-bonded sex is a corruption or perversion of our naturally monogamous proclivity. It turns out that this isn't the case, but rather, that it is a natural part of our human genetic reproductive strategy. To conclude, while some form of pair-bonding is a near universal amongst adult humans, sexual exclusivity is actually quite rare. This is not to say that sexual monogamy does not exist amongst foraging peoples in traditional societies, nor that it is something that people shouldn't explore, but rather, that it ought not be our mandatory sexual default. 

It's time to rethink our culturally dominant relationship paradigm.

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ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Christopher Ryan, PhD on Freeing Ourselves from Shame

It was great fun to talk with Christopher Ryan, author of the New York Times best-seller Sex At Dawn.

Episode Breakdown

  • The nuclear family and how hunter-gatherers structure socially
  • How women went from being equal partners to being domesticated animals
  • Scarcity consciousness of modern society
  • The difference between sexual jealousy and wealth jealousy
  • How Chris views the nuclear family
  • The Shame Exorcist
  • What Chris would tell kids about sex
  • Persian editon of Sex at Dawn
  • Chris’s new book and his writing process
  • Finding the exhale in your work

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Meet Christopher

Author of the New York Times best-seller, Sex at Dawn, Christopher has spoken about prehistoric sexuality to audiences all over the world, from The Festival of Dangerous Ideas at the Sydney Opera House to TED in Long Beach, CA. Christopher also hosts the popular podcast, Tangentially Speaking. He can be found at ChrisRyanPhD.com and on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

Christopher Ryan | Angkor Wat, Cambodia

Christopher Ryan | Angkor Wat, Cambodia

Wild Woman Speaks

The Buried Sexual Treasures of Woman

By Ali Schueler of Wild Woman Speaks

Women’s sexual anatomy has been misunderstood for a long time. Looking back on anatomy textbooks and the drawings of women’s sexual anatomy from the past hundred years or so, shows that a few things have been lost in translation.

Sure, the reproductive organs have always made the cut and shown up in charts of women’s sexual anatomy. I mean, that’s what women are for, right — reproduction? What about women’s sexual pleasure and all of our parts that are involved in feeling sexually aroused?

No regard, study, or energy was given to women’s sexual pleasure for a long time. Think back to the 1800’s when women even feeling sexual arousal was considered “hysteria”. Women were considered to be in “hysterics” when they felt or exhibited signs of sexual arousal, and were sent to the doctor to be “taken care of”. I mean, really? If women’s sexual arousal couldn’t even be considered normal during that time, why would they care to map out women’s sexual pleasure centers properly?

It took a long time for even the clitoris, a very obvious aspect of women’s sexual anatomy, to be identified on women’s anatomy charts. Fortunately for us, strides have been made in the last decade, with regard to understanding women’s sexual anatomy more clearly, thanks to women like Sheri Winston and her work. Sheri’s work, and specifically her amazing book Women’s Anatomy of Arousal (this should be required reading for every woman!) has given myself and many other women (and men, for that matter) the proper education, language and tools around our sexual anatomy to be able to best understand and use it.

I mentioned how the clitoris wasn’t even shown on the map of women’s sexual anatomy for a long time, but that’s not even the half of it! If anyone was exploring the territory lying just beneath the external tissue of the vulva, it was not being represented in anatomy charts, that’s for sure.

Most often what is shown in basic depictions of women’s sexual anatomy are the following: internally, it’s the fallopian tubes, the ovaries, the uterus, the bladder, the cervix, the urethra, the rectum, the vagina, and the anus. Externally, it’s the labia minora and majora, (more recently) the clitoris, the urethra, the opening of the vagina, the perineum and the anus.

This is all well and good — each of these depicted aspects of our sexual and reproductive anatomy are vital for women to be intimately acquainted with. However, there is quite a bit more to be explored and unearthed with women’s sexual anatomy.

Lying just beneath the surface of the vulva, is a whole network of pleasure parts that are virtually unknown by the majority of men and women.

While this is just scratching the surface of the buried sexual treasures a woman has to explore, the following are some of the pleasure centers I am referring to.

Let’s start with the erectile network. That’s right, women have erectile tissue! When a man’s penis hardens, we call it an “erection” because his penis is comprised of mostly erectile tissue. What most don’t know, is that women have the same amount, if not more, erectile tissue in within their vagina as a man does! Women’s erectile tissue is of course arranged differently than it is in a man’s penis, but as Sheri Winston says, “In fact, women have just as much erotic equipment in their bodies as men do. That’s right. The female apparatus is equivalent in size to that of the male—it’s just not as obvious. Pound for pound, inch for inch, women have the same amount of the good stuff as guys.”

Check out the image below this paragraph — this highlights the erectile network and it’s associated structures. Erectile tissue comprises the clitoral head and clitoral hood (the tissue that the clitoris lives inside), and as you can see in this image, the clitoris has two long legs of erectile tissue which run down each side of the labia majora, hugging the vestibular bulbs. If you are a woman, try gently pressing on the area just above your clitoral hood, as well as the sides of your labia majora where they meet your inner thighs. Do you feel anything? For me, that sends sensations of pleasure all through my body, identifying for me that with further stimulation, it could feed deeper and more intense sexual pleasure for me. This tissue can be stimulated externally to awaken a woman’s sexual parts beyond just the clitoris itself!

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Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sheri Winston

The vestibular bulbs are two large cushiony areas of erectile tissue. Look how big that are! All of that sensitive tissue, just waiting to be stimulated in sexual experiences but rarely ever gets taken advantage of. Reach down to your vulva and lightly press on each side of your labia majora, under which the vestibular bulbs reside. When I do this, I certainly feel the delicious tingly sensations of stirring pleasure, with all of the juicy tissue living right below the surface. How about you?

Referring to the image above again, you can see that there is spongy erectile tissue that surrounds the urethral opening. This tissue sits right above the vaginal canal, and with proper stimulation using fingers, your partner’s penis or a toy of choice, that tissue can be stimulated to induce heightened states of sexual pleasure as well! To explore this erectile tissue, insert one or two fingers into your vagina, curl your fingers upward and do the come hither motion. This particular tissue might be best to explore when you are in the midst of sexual arousal already.

Lastly, there is the perineal sponge, which lives in the perineum — the space between your vaginal opening and your anus. The perineal sponge can also be stimulated by pressing upon the perineum externally, or with fingers internally from the rear. Try pressing on it externally right now and see if you can tune into the spongy tissue that lives there. Any sensations of pleasure arise for you?

So many pleasure centers, so much to explore! All of these areas of erectile tissue that I’ve specified comprise the “erectile network”. The idea here is to first become acquainted these aspects of our anatomy that have been unknown for far too long. Explore your own body. Look at the images in this article and in Sheri’s book for reference to help you identify these parts of your anatomy.

Once you are acquainted, start to play! You can begin to experiment with these pleasure centers in sex with yourself. If you have a partner, you can bring them into the process of learning about your true sexual anatomy as a woman so that they can experiment and explore right alongside you!

The key is to stimulate the erectile network as much as possible in advance to actual intercourse, as the act of doing this primes a woman for the most pleasurable sex she can possibly enjoy! When this erectile tissue is fully engorged, that is a sign that she is turned on and primed. You can see and feel when your body has achieved engorgement because you will feel your vestibular bulbs full and blossomed, your urethral sponge will be puffed, and your clitoral head, shaft and legs will all be fully erect where if you roll your fingers over those areas, you will be able to easily identify their shape.

A woman’s erectile network and it’s associated structures, when properly stimulated, can anchor in far more pleasure for her than if they are not properly aroused in advance to sex and orgasm.

And to tell you the truth from the experience I have had, orgasms without full stimulation of the erectile network and it’s yummy parts hardly pales in comparison to orgasms when I have been thoroughly stimulated all throughout my erectile network!

Proper understanding and use of a woman’s full spectrum sexual anatomy can open her into deeper states of pleasure and sexual expansion. Just as a man needs to be erect in order to have intercourse and achieve orgasm, stimulation of a woman’s erectile network should not be neglected either! Why deny our full capacity for pleasure? Play with all of your pleasure centers properly prior to intercourse and other sexual exploration to promote your highest potential for arousal!

To take this exploration deeper, I highly encourage both women and men to pick up a copy of Sheri Winston’s book “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” to get a wholistic look at women’s sexuality and an all encompassing understanding of women’s sexual arousal and pleasure. This book taught me so much about my body and my sexuality that I think it should be a manual all women receive as young girls to best understand themselves, and a manual for all men as they become sexually active with women so that they best understand how to operate our sexual anatomy.

Now go explore those sexual treasures of yours!


Meet Ali

Ali is a writer and women’s embodiment mentor. She is committed to the re-sacralization of the feminine across the globe. Her mission is passionately providing women with experience-based tools that inspire life-changing awakening in the feminine, promoting emotional awareness, spiritual fulfillment, wild self-expression as well as a connection to our bodies and their natural cycles. She enjoys writing and video blogging weekly through her website WildWomanSpeaks.com and sharing inspiration with her Wild Woman Speaks community daily through Facebook, Twitter @alischueler, and Instagram.

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ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Katie Singer on Fertility Awareness

In this episode of ReWild Yourself! podcast, Katie Singer — author of Honoring our Cycles and Garden of Fertility — gives us an introduction to fertility awareness.

Episode Breakdown:

  • What is fertility awareness?
  • The process of ovulation
  • Polycystic Ovary Syndrome
  • Insights into tracking your fertility
  • What is a sexually healthy adult?
  • Katie's thoughts on mainstream birth control options
  • EMF effects on fertility
  • Top tips for reducing EMF exposure
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Meet Katie

An international teacher, medical journalist and novelist, Katie Singer's newest book is An Electronic Silent Spring, about the health and environmental effects of exposure to electromagnetic radiation from wireless technologies. Her earlier books include Honoring Our Cycles, The Garden of Fertility and The Wholeness of a Broken Heart (a novel). Her books are available through her websites: ElectronicSilentSpring.com and GardenOfFertility.com.

Katie Singer

Katie Singer

Husbandry

Countless researchers, professors, writers, and natural living enthusiasts have identified the dawn of agriculture as marking the beginning of a dramatic change in the life-way of Homo sapiens – the departure from our natural, wild way of life. Many have noted — and research has been piling up demonstrating — that this change has had tremendously negative impacts on our mental and bodily health, and has also had extremely detrimental effects on our environment both locally and globally. While I agree that agriculture does appear to mark the beginning of this change, I would offer that agriculture is simply one symptom of a more comprehensive mental illness, one that encompasses agriculture, but has three other distinctive aspects that help to form the mental model through which so called “agriculturalists” view the world. That paradigm is known as "husbandry".

Husbandry

Husbandry is an interesting term. Upon hearing, its root-word is obvious, it is of course "husband". 

husband |ˈhəzbənd|

noun

a married man considered in relation to his wife

By simply adding the suffix ‘ry’ to the end of the word we get husbandry.

-ry

suffix

forming nouns:

denoting an occupation, a state, a condition, or behavior

husbandry |ˈhəzbəndrē|

noun

1 the cultivation and production of edible crops or animals for food; agriculture; farming.

2 the science of raising crops or food animals

3 careful or thrifty management; frugality, thrift, or conservation. 

Let's define "thrift" as well, since it is used in the above entry, and can help us further tease apart the definition of husbandry.

thrift |THrift|

noun

1 the quality of using money and other resources carefully and not wastefully

2 the management of domestic affairs or of resources generally 

I would distill husbandry's meaning down to the following four-part definition: 

Husbandry;

1. The philosophy of patriarchal leadership of a monogamous lifelong pair-bond with a female.

2 Patriarchal management of the household (remember domestication literally means "of the household") or domestic affairs.

3. The patriarchal management of money and economy.

4. The practice of agriculture — chiefly the domestication and cultivation of plants and animals for human purposes.

The practice of husbandry in its above sense seems to be largely absent — in all of its above meanings — from the lives of foraging (wild) peoples, yet seems to be nearly ubiquitous in the lives of subsistence agriculturalists the world over. In particular, it rules over us all in its current manifestation of "global husbandry", which has absorbed most of the Earth's human population under the banner of the modern conquest known as “globalism” or "global governance". 

The Holy Bible is a useful tool for understanding the underlying paradigm (mental operating system) of a significant portion of the people alive on Earth today, in that it contains the creation myth of the Abrahamic traditions, which includes not just the world of Christendom, but also that of Jewish and Muslim traditions as well. The book of Genesis — which begins with the creation myth of these three world religions — is particularly interesting to read from the perspective of the transition from foraging to husbandry. Its second chapter seems to describe this — what science calls the Neolithic Revolution — rather explicitly.

In Genesis 2:16 we see the “Lord God” placing man in the “Garden of Eden” which can be viewed as a metaphor for our natural habitat — the wild from which we foraged our foods:

And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat

Here we see that rather than cultivating and farming food, man simply "eats freely" from the the trees. The story continues that there is one tree from which he is told not to eat. Soon after, his female consort, Eve, is created, and they live together — as is so common for great apes —  foraging from the trees.

We are told in Genesis 2:25:

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed

Adam and Eve were naked and eating wild foods, just like the rest of the "creation". Now this is where things get interesting, as Eve and then Adam eat this forbidden fruit — just what this metaphor stands for is never stated explicitly — and we read that:

And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.

Here, upon eating the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, their minds are altered, and they now see themselves as separate from the rest of the creation. This is the beginning of the “Intrinsic Taboo”, as both Eve and Adam recognize that they are — just as the other animals — naked. The story continues on as both Adam and Eve have punishments leveled agains them for this transgression. Eve goes first in Genesis 3:16:

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.

Note that first Eve is told that her sorrows would be multiplied in childbirth, which has come to pass, as the pelvic outlet of modern, domesticated woman has indeed narrowed since the dawn of agriculture, leading to more painful and difficult deliveries. However, more important to this narrative is the second punishment. Here Eve is told that her “husband” will rule over her. This of course implies that prior to this she and Adam had a much more egalitarian arrangement — one that we see reflected, even today, amongst still existing foraging peoples. Following this — in Genesis 3:17-19 we see that Adam, in turn, receives his punishments:

Cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;

Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;

In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground

This passage is particularly significant in that we are told Adam will no longer eat freely of the trees (forage), but rather from the ground (he must now farm), which will bring forth “thorns and thistles”. Note that thistles, like so many weeds, grow in places that humans disturb to grow crops, such as wheat — the herb of the field. This passage tells us that Adam will be plowing fields to grow grain, and as a result of this disturbance he will have to combat the weeds which attempt to reclaim the ground that he plows. Then he is told that he will now have to labor for food — by the sweat of his brow — and eat bread (which is made from wheat) until he dies. Essentially, Adam will now live in what amounts to an endless struggle against nature. Adam is now an agriculturalist, and he will strive with nature to wrestle food from the ground. This story does parallel neatly with the current scientific narrative, which tells of wheat (the herb of the field) being the first domesticated crop, some 10,000 years ago in the fertile crescent, the area in which the Genesis story takes place.

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So in Genesis we read that patriarchal control of the household and wife, as well as, the beginnings of farming (animal and plant husbandry) are — in the dominant creation myth of our time — the result not of innovation, but rather of a punishment. These — so believe the Abrahamic traditions — were not adopted because they are natural to us, because they are easier for us, because they are more efficient for us, but rather because we were being punished

This concept, that a kind of disease or virus of the mind — a knowledge of both good and evil (duality) — is what led to the Neolithic Revolution makes far more sense to me than the idea that we began farming as some kind of improvement on our former way of life. As we stand here now gazing out over the extinction level event that we have wrought, it seems so obvious; domesticated humans are infected with a disease of the psyche, one that has led us to turn on each other and the rest of natural world. That disease has a name. It is Husbandry.

ReWild Your Diet

A Farm to Table Approach to Sexual Dining

By Chef Frank Giglio of Three Lily Farm

Let's face it, food can make or break an evening of sexy time with your partner. Set out for a nice romantic dinner and see how quickly your hopes of getting laid diminish following a terrible dining experience.

I remember the first time I ever cooked for a girl. I was 16, timid as a mofo, and had no game. I was working at a local seafood restaurant so I thought I would enlist the assistance of one of my chefs. Shrimp Fra Diavolo was going on the menu, and I was somehow lucky enough to get my dad out of the house for a few hours. So, I hopped in my Hyundai and picked up my date. With a newly broken arm, my date was already feeling hard to please, but I did my best hoping I would “score” later in the evening. Dinner was finally served, and a few bites into her rich creamy sauce-coated pasta left her stuffed and searching for the couch and a movie. I straight up gave her the bloat and would proceed to make zero advancements!

Older and somewhat wiser, I know now a little bit more about how to turn dining into a sensual sensory experience, and I feel blessed to have a wife who openly invites all my culinary wizardry. 

Sexy Time Menu Plan

Below is a menu I’ve crafted using select ingredients that have a history of use as aphrodisiacs. Don’t worry. No rhino horns, spanish fly, or bull testicles are needed to create a sensual dining experience, and all the ingredients listed below can be found in most cities or states. 

Although science can back certain foods as having aphrodisiac qualities, I feel it is more of an individual experience, how foods effect one’s unique physiology. 

Before you start thinking about the food, it’s time to create the ambiance… Clean your home, wash your sheets, buy some candles (just not from "Yankee Candle"), and make a fun playlist on Spotify. This is about having fun and not trying to be overly sexual so need to play the Very Best of Barry White!

Primal Eating!

While it may not seem proper, sensual dining can use a little bit of primal habits to invoke passion and sexuality. Conscious eating can be sensual and mindful, employing all the senses: sight, smell, sound, and taste. Using your hands activates the sense of touch, and gives you a deeper connection to your food and your partner.

Portion Control

With most restaurants, filling you up is their main goal but nothing is less sexy then leaving the restaurant bloated and gassy from too many salty, oily ingredients, so remember its about quality and not quantity of food you eat during this meal! Prepare a meal that will be satiating, but not over the top filling.

Potent Potions

A sexy cordial of herbs can be the perfect way to invoke love and passion. Starting with a base of organic vodka, make a tincture using dried damiana leaves and a few rose petals. Allow the herbs to infuse for a minimum of two weeks. Strain then sweeten a touch with honey. For him, dried yohimbe root tincture is the way to go. Although skip the roses and add a touch of vanilla. Pour an ounce or two and sip slowly. 

~First Course~

Loaded with zinc, oysters are often associated with being an aphrodisiac. For men, zinc means fertility and is therefore an important mineral to consume. Casanova was said to consume upwards of 50 oysters each morning. Recent studies show that oysters contain certain amino acids which can increase sex hormones. Visually oysters and other bivalve mollusks have a genitalia look to them, and it’s no rarity to hear someone crack a sexual joke when oysters are on the table. 

This simple preparation of raw oysters is enhanced with the sweet and sour mignonette which cuts through the briny shellfish.

Oysters w/ Sherry Wine Mignonette

1/4 cup sherry wine vinegar

2 tablespoons minced shallots

2 teaspoons cracked black pepper

pinch of salt

1/2 teaspoon vanilla powder

a touch of honey

Shuck a few oysters, serve on ice with a few drops of the mignonette.

~Second Course~

Roasted Beets w/ Goat Cheese and Arugula

Roast whole evenly sized beets in a 350°F oven until they can be pierced with a knife. Once cooled, peel then quarter them. 

Serve with soft goat cheese that you’ve aerated with a stand up mixer, or by hand. Whip it to make it super light-tasting, almost airy. Fold in a few pinches of sea salt and freshly chopped rosemary. 

Toss a few arugula leaves with olive oil and a splash of lemon. 

~Third Course~

Scallops are straight up sexy! These plump, buttery mollusks host similar properties as our beloved oysters and pair with a wide variety of ingredients. Vanilla, with 150 aromas, brings together the subtle sweetness of the scallops and the sweet, juiciness of the sultry mangoes. This is a dish that will have your partner moaning “mmmm” between every bite!

Seared Scallop w/ Mango-Vanilla Sauce

3-4 plump scallops per person

1-2 sweet potatoes, boiled then mashed with sea salt, butter, and grated ginger

For the Sauce:

1 ripe mango, cut into large chunks

1/2 teaspoon vanilla powder

2 tablespoons honey

1/4 cup apple cider vinegar

zest of 1 lime

pinch of sea salt

a few mint leaves, torn into smaller pieces

Directions:

Over medium heat, warm the honey, mango, vanilla, and vinegar. Allow it to simmer and slowly cook down, softening the mango a touch. Add the lime zest, a pinch of sea salt, and the mint leaves. Keep warm until ready to serve. 


Maca Balls

Maca root has long been hailed as a libido enhancer and from a culinary perspective, marries well with other sensual ingredients like chocolate, coconut, and vanilla. Belonging to the radish family, maca is a firey ingredient that is said to build strength and endurance. 

Ingredients:

4 cups almonds

1/4 cup maca root

1 teaspoon vanilla powder

2 tablespoons mesquite meal

2 teaspoons ground cinnamon

pinch sea salt

2 cups coconut butter

1/4 cup honey

Directions:

Process the almonds with the spices and seasonings in a food processor until the almonds are well broken up and begin to stick to the sides. Stir in the coconut butter then pulse to combine. 

Add the honey and repeat, grinding as much as needed until the mixture is thoroughly combined. You may need a wooden spoon to help stir together the mixture. If mix feels dry, add a bit more honey. 

Scoop into roughly 2 dozen evenly sized balls then place in the freezer or fridge to set up. You can also make or melt your favorite chocolate and partially dip the balls into the chocolate for a little extra fanciness. 

Blend until a paste is formed. Roll into 1 oz balls, then dip into or drizzle with melted chocolate.

Makes roughly 28 1 oz balls.


about the chef

Frank Giglio exudes a passion for nature-based living in all that he does, from his culinary pursuits to the simplest of day to day projects. Along with his beautiful family, classically trained chef Frank runs Three Lily Farm — an off-the-grid permaculture minded homestead where he mentors and educates others on the importance of preparing and eating a real-food diet, growing their own fruits and vegetables, and connecting with nature through wild foraging, harvesting spring water, and simply spending time in the health-promoting glory of the outdoors. Every year, Frank continues to push his fitness to the elite level by competing in obstacle course races and ultra-marathons. A true Maine-Man, Frank maintains his beard by carrying water and splitting wood.

You can find him on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @FrankGiglio.

Frank Giglio

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ReWild Yourself! Podcast: Kim Anami on Consciously Confronting Sexual Taboos

Kim Anami — sex and relationship coach, writer and speaker — is one of my favorite voices in the sexuality space. In this interview, we get into some of today's sexual cultural conditioning and examine how we can consciously confront sexual taboos.

Episode Breakdown

  • Kim’s first profound transcendent sexual experiences
  • The sacred vs the profane
  • Born to f*ck
  • Male and female sexual cultural conditioning
  • The primal masculine energy that every woman wants
  • Don’t slather on the lubricant! 
  • Consciously approaching sexual taboos
  • Waves of opening: deep throating and anal
  • The deeper themes of BDSM
  • Vaginal Kung Fu
  • Kim’s courses
  • Deep vaginal life-changing orgasms
  • Sexual Mastery for Men
  • Polyamory vs monogamy
  • The true use of celibacy

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Meet Kim

Kim Anami is a sex and relationship coach, writer and speaker. Her musings on love, life and sex have graced the pages of Playboy, Elle, Glamour, Marie Claire and national radio and talk shows with audiences up to 7 million. 

Throughout the year, Kim runs a series of online courses, which she calls “salons” on sex and relationships, including: Vaginal Kung Fu, How to Be a Well-F**ked Woman, Coming Together for Couples and Sexual Mastery for Men. Her website also contains a host of free videos to get you started! 

Explore her Orgasmic Enlightenment intimacy retreats and e-courses on all things intimate and sexual at: www.KimAnami.com 

Kim Anami

Kim Anami

What Happened to GropeCunt Lane?

A ReWild Yourself! Guest Contribution

By LeighLon Anderson

Cunt! Cunt! Cunt! Oh My! I’ve gone and done it now with my shameful, foul, vulgar mouth!

Is there any word that wields more power, cuts more deeply or is more taboo than the infamous “Cunt”? A monosyllable beginning with C and ending in T that is severe enough in sound and meaning to break up relationships, silence a room, degrade a woman, and incite and express both rage and violence. Why do we so widely accept this as the ultimate in expletives? Why culturally do we unanimously agree to the attached emotional charge and can we reinvent it? Let’s explore this dynamic and fascinating, simple sound bite.  

The word itself (taking a very basic look) appears to be derived from the Latin, cunnus, meaning vulva, though variations are seen in many historical texts leaving us questioning its precise roots. Digging deeper we find referenced as well, many goddesses, priestesses and witches who also carry names that both closely relate, and are well documented by, Barbara Walker in her Encyclopedia of Women’s Myths and Secrets (this is in my Amazon cart right now).  Some who have written on the subject imply that it may even mean ‘queen’. One thing we find to be nearly universally true is that this is an intrinsically female term, in all of its cunt-essence, as it defines the female genitals.   

I write this not to quarrel theories examining from where this clamor came, but rather to discuss its power and perhaps even shift our minds a bit, logically questioning our emotional connection to words and language. This seems a perfectly suited, inarguable, go-to choice to use as a baseline for some thought re-mapping. It is vital to address this and maybe even consciously desensitize ourselves to words and their proposed concrete translations whilst we focus wherein the true power of speech lies.

 A further exploration of the “C word” leads us to England where there was always to be found a street named Gropecuntlane. One in every town in fact!  This was an area where prostitution took place. Go figure! It’s quite literal don’t you think?  

Here is an excerpt from the Wiki:

“…it was normal practice for a medieval street name to reflect the street's function or the economic activity taking place within it. Gropecunt, the earliest known use of which is in about 1230, appears to have been derived as a compound of the words grope and cunt. Streets with that name were often in the busiest parts of medieval towns and cities, and at least one appears to have been an important thoroughfare.”

As time went on the “cunt” was removed and Grope was eventually turned to Grape or the name changed entirely. Grape Lane is far less controversial. I like controversial, I like powerful and I rebelliously reject the standardized “norm”, so I far prefer a colorfully quirky cunt castle built on Gropecunt Lane to a boring beige bungalow built on Grape Lane! Yawn!

It’s quite clear that Cunt is used as a derogatory, disempowering, demeaning dig directed mainly toward women in our culture and is used very violently as a last resort ramble that emanates hatred and disgust! This spoken slam doesn’t stand alone of course, but I think we can agree, that it is the grandest “don’t go there” swear in the entire catalog of English slang. If you have been at the receiving end of “cunt” in verbal battle, its use likely was an immediate game-changer, an arrow to the heart, a lightning bolt of shock to your system. A silencer! “The Last Word!”

And Ladies, we can change our attitudes about this. We permit this word to hold control over us, to defame us and to enrage us….to silence us. No offense to the men who are reading this but you may agree there is no masculine equivalent with which to retort. I’m certainly not looking to even the score but I do love to diminish the word in question, make light of it, say it and own it! It makes me laugh!

 I am taking it back, and will not be defiled by the utterance of this four letter word — or any other for that matter — I instead choose to redefine it, embrace it and redirect its strength. I don’t know what you think, but it undeniably has some gumption behind it as it falls from my lips. Give it a try….say it a few times. It is strong all by itself and it feels powerful to say! As a practice I have been saying it as my primary obscenity for a few weeks now and honestly it feels damn good to remove the stigma and re-educate those around me who hear me say it. 

“I am a CUNT!” a downright: 

Contumacious

Untamed

Naughty 

Tart

I feel better already ;)

This brilliantly fascinating and controversial quip may be the ONLY word that describes the entire assemblage of the female genitalia all wrapped into four letters. It mildly tugs at my feminine heart that the one expression we have to define our complete lady package, has evolved to be such an off-limits, “no-no” noun! Vagina is a mere small portion, the passage, or in Latin “sheath, scabbard”. Vulva excludes the vagina to describe the outer parts, the labia, clitoris and vaginal opening--but cunt—Cunt covers it completely!  

When we do say it, and I personally do, it emits a bit of a pornographic vibe so trust I am careful of my company. How unfair that only porn actors and actresses can use it acceptably and for the rest of us--50-plus per cent of the US population who in fact have cunts--may be looked upon as slatterns, harlots, or worse for using such a vulgarity outside of the boudoir.  

Let’s move along to something similar for a little fun with words and their roots. Cunnilingus, coming from “cunnus” (formerly established) and “lingere” (to lick)... I think you can handle the full translation from there ;). Notice how the fluidity of cunnilingus doesn’t offend us quite so much. It flows off the tongue with ease. Maybe it is the 2 extra syllables, or perhaps it is because the word itself elicits an anchored pleasurable memory?  It’s just a thought, though, something to seriously consider as we further expand our minds. If words are in fact attached to our emotions--or memories of said emotions--it may also be true that we simply need new anchors to change a word and its meaning to us personally.

 The cuss that is the basis for this article is used quite commonly in other countries in day-to-day language. In Australia it is used as a loose and friendly term much like calling someone “Bro” or “Mate”. It is apparent that we Westerners find this quip far more offensive than many other parts of the world. I am hardly surprised! We love rules, and without them we savages would be running amuck having all kinds of promiscuous sex and screaming “cunt!”….maybe even worse! 

 As a culture we tend to place excessive emphasis on words, as if they and the sentences they create are our primary form of communication. This belief is so clearly false. How often have you had a conversation with someone who was saying one thing but you could tell clearly by their tone, facial expressions and body language that their verbiage was untrue, not matching their other more obvious cues? It is well established that words play very little role in communication and our body language, tone and inflection convey far more loudly than vocalizations.  

Imagine, for a moment, that it is our choice whether any word holds ownership over our emotional body. How would things be different if we were all empowered in this way? This is an exploration I strongly encourage. And the good news is… we can! With observance, practice and application this shift can be made in our minds.

 But what are words really? Words are simply a collection of letters strung together in an effort to define things so that we may mutually understand and put meaning to them, connecting one another. This is true in all languages and in studying foreign language we also see that many words familiar to us (English Speaking) simply don’t exist at all.

So, what we establish now is that the meaning of a word is based on our language agreement. A couch is a couch, a dog is a dog. We have agreed to this and so it is. In jest is a cunt a cunt? Or is it something vile and defamatory never to be uttered? Some further pondering is deserved.

 Trust I am not dismissing the intensity of a person’s energy when they are throwing inflammatory innuendos in our direction and how challenging it is not to take potent phonated punches personally, but when the turgidity subsides, it is our choice to carry (or not to) injury and allow ourselves emotional affliction. And was it the words they spoke that made us feel angry or sad or insecure? Only if we believe what they say to be true or we have a pre-existing emotional wound they open, otherwise the nouns, verbs and adjectives are nothing more… 

When ReWilding our minds we can look at all words in this way, Cunt, is the most obvious example I can think of, and one I personally love reinventing! We easily learn ways to speak directly and intelligently about our feelings thus avoiding the need for name-calling and pissing matches.  

Looking at this from a much broader view it is indubitable silliness to call someone by the name of their genitals to express anger in the first place right?  (dickhead, prick or cock anyone?) Perhaps the first step is to never do that and the second step is not to take it personally if someone chooses to do it to us, maybe even laugh if they do ;) 

I leave you with this simple exercise to begin your journey of vocal vindication:

Say Cunt 3 times whilst clicking your heels together, have a laugh, and free yourself from the chains of language legislation! 


Meet LeighLon

LeighLon Anderson was born, and spent most of her youth, in Portsmouth New Hampshire and now resides in Maine with her family, human, furry and feathered.  She is the co-owner of SurThrival.com and FindASpring.com and the mother of two young adults. She focuses much energy on entrepreneurial endeavors, family, bird watching, photography, gardening and nature exploration. LeighLon is passionate about spoken language, astrology, body language, emotional intelligence (EQ), lucid dreaming and the spiritual teachings of the Toltec tradition.  She is a researcher at heart and loves immersing herself in fresh information, dissecting it and sharing it with others. 

You can find LeighLon on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

LeighLon Anderson

LeighLon Anderson


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ReWild Yourself! Podcast: All Those Naughty Words

My second stream of consciousness rant! Have you ever taken a moment to consider the origins of our "swear words" and how they are related?

Episode Breakdown

  • Arrangements of sounds
  • The taboo of sexual and body excrement language
  • The themes of head and face
  • An examination of taboo sexual language
  • Motherfucker — the principle inbred taboo
  • Cunt — the word that can make a room go silent

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Twenty Sex (just the) Tips
  1. Fearlessly communicate about sex and sexuality with your partner(s). Shine your light on the shadowy places.
  2. Gaze into your partner's eyes as they orgasm, allow them to do the same to you. This is ecstatic vulnerability.
  3. Revel in the altered state of consciousness that sex engenders. Feel it, and enjoy the high. It lasts for hours.
  4. Ask your lover for honest feedback. How can you be an even better, more present lover for you both?
  5. Slow down, why rush to the end? This journey is the destination.
  6. Smell, lick, and nuzzle your partner’s armpits. These pheromones are free hormone boosters!
  7. Consider some bio-friendly sex toys! Remember, Homo sapiens are tool users!
  8. Build your pelvic floor strength, it will make you a more fit and capable lover.
  9. Swallow it… Semen is an unrivaled nutritional powerhouse.
  10. Make a study of male and female erogenous sexual anatomy. The map isn’t the terrain, but it sure gets you acquainted with the landscape.
  11. Become a master of mood. Set the ambiance. Music, food, lighting. Create conditions that encourage great sex!
  12. Let your body breath itself before, during, and after orgasm. Be especially mindful not to hold your breath!
  13. You can heal from sexual trauma and shame. It begins with facing it, and loving yourself!
  14. Change up your solo-sex routines. Break old, childhood patterns! Variety is the spice of life! Be an inventive, mature self-lover!
  15. Natural human sexuality is varied and versatile! Remain open to your taboo turns-ons, and fearlessly accept yourself! 
  16. Play safely with dominance and submission. These are ancient animal archetypes, and they teach us about how we play with power in the world.
  17. Guys, it’s just blood, man up. For fertile lovers who aren’t seeking children, menstruation is a special time ;)
  18. Stimulate your lover holistically! Physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, and of course, sexually. 
  19. Honor yourself and your boundaries when you aren’t feeling sexual. 
  20. Eliminate taboos one by one. Do it all. Stay healthy and enjoy!
Your Neo-Aboriginal Challenge

Have Sex Outside!

Take a break from mating in captivity!

You are hereby commissioned, challenged, and encouraged to make love — to yourself or with someone else — in the ceilingless outdoors between now and Samhain. For many of you, this might amount to an illegal act, which I cannot encourage, but can certainly imagine you creatively finding a way around. Others will have a yard, a piece of land, or a private spot where they can go do it like other mammals do it. Out in the open air. 

If you are alone, and practicing solo-sex, I highly encourage you to avoid your normal “routine”. It is so easy to continue repeating the same self-pleasuring sequence we practiced in our early pubescence, with little or even no novelty. Try something different, change the timing, the cadence, the lead in. Use a toy or tool, change your position. This isn’t about sneaking into the woods to “rub one out”, rather it is an exercise for connecting your sexuality to nature. 

If you are with a partner or partners, perhaps a picnic is in order. Pack up some things, maybe some food and libations. You will probably appreciate a sheet to put underneath you. Take a walk, talking about what you would like to do to – and with – one another, building the energy by touching and kissing as you approach your destination. Develop the anticipation of savoring one another in your sexual embrace. 

Sex is very much a celebration of the senses, so allow yourself to feel, to see, to smell, to hear, to taste. Let the sounds and colors of nature flood your sensory systems. Let your sex organs soak in the freshness of the air, let your body feel the coolness of the ground beneath you.

Enjoy yourself (or selves) as you make love as humans have for hundreds of thousands of years. Wild and free, immersed in nature.


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